Kenny, 26

This is a long story. I’d like to introduce my ex-boyfriend Kenny. When we first started talking three years ago, I genuinely was excited because he came off as such a good guy. I learned about his past and the hurt he went through in his relationships. I felt super comfortable being around him and he made me feel like I could 100% trust him. After someone who went through a lot of hurt in the past, I finally thought I found a really good person. I learned about his ex who cheated on him and he told me he would never do that to a person especially since he’s been through it before and knows the hurt it causes. I learned a lot about his friend group and he would tell me stories about never feeling included when they went out and how he constantly felt alone. I supported him through everything, gave him constant advice about his career and his friends and supported him through police college. I really did love and care about him and wanted to support him as much as I could.
We went through a lot over the past three years, but I truly felt he cared about me and would do nothing to hurt me. When we spent time together or went out on dates, everything was great. I never had any doubts in my mind and truly loved being around him. His ex had reached out to me one summer as she saw him at a friend’s birthday party where he denied our relationship and knowing who I was. When I confronted him about this, he was calm and denied it. He said it was just a result of an angry ex who was still upset he left her. He had told me many stories about his friend group and ex at the beginning so I believed him at the time.
We were in a really good place in our relationship this year. We had planned so many upcoming events, concerts, exhibits, birthday plans etc. We were going on dates every week – he even met my family and spent time with my little sisters who really liked him. I thought things were going super well so I wanted him present at family occasions. He was spending a lot of time at my house at this point. At the beginning of this year, he kept talking about his upcoming family trip and how excited he was after it’s been many years since he had gone on vacation. We went shopping together and I picked out a bunch of things for him to take on the trip. When he went on this trip on March 15, 2023, I did not hear from him for the entire week. Except for a “We will talk when I’m home” message which sparked major anxiety. When he got home, he called me and I asked him if anything went on during that trip where he admitted to dancing and making out with a girl. We ended our relationship over a phone call and he was found on dating apps the EXACT same day. I was truly shattered at this point.
On April 12th, he reached out to me wanting to apologize and talk. I was hesitant about this but I never had an opportunity to even say my piece and ask him anything. I had so many questions because I was so blindsided by how he moved on like it was nothing the same day. We met up, he cried and told me he was sorry for everything. He could not imagine what he put me through and he made a huge mistake and realized the pain he caused. He said he takes accountability for what he’s done and wanted to change. He also said we had a “connection like no other.” He said I made him happy for years and he wanted to return the favour. I was hesitant to give him a chance after what he did and battled this in my head. I thought that there may be a slight chance he could change.
At this point, he told me he deleted all the dating apps he was on, he unfollowed everyone he’s talked to and he got rid of his social accounts. When I asked him why he deleted all his social accounts, he said he wanted to focus on us. He told me that he knew how bad he hurt me and he wanted me to take the time I needed to heal and he would be there for me. He said I could speak to him about what happened whenever I wanted if I need clarity. We continued to see one another and I recently found out that there were still multiple girls all of which he was seeing, texting or hooking up with. Along with this, lying about our relationship status and telling them he has been single for a whole year and had been cheated on by his last ex. Every day he acted like he was putting in the work to be a better man, he made it seem like it was a safe space to talk to him, would buy me flowers and take me on dates….all while secretly in contact with other girls. Right now, I’ve found out about 6 other women. At this point, I was done for good and have since removed him from my life.
I am not here to bash him but talk about my own experience with him. I hope this reaches anyone who has been in contact with him or crossed him recently, as you will be left with nothing but made-up stories and an immense amount of pain from someone you thought you knew well. I hope to encourage others to come forward if you have an experience of your own or have been seeing him for the last three years.