Sam, 45

I have an update, I was supposed to fly out and see him just for a day, and he actually bought my plane ticket for me.
I reminded him a couple times times that I wasn’t going to be ready to have sex yet since we hadn’t spent much time in person,   I reminded him one final time, because, after I mentioned the no sex thing, he asked about masturbating next to me, which made me a little uneasy, but I was still kind of excited to go meet him
He immediately canceled my plane ticket,  and then made me feel guilty that I reminded him to many times that I wouldn’t be sleeping with him, even though we would be staying in the same hotel room, and it made him feel like “I would flip the script and accuse him of something.”He told me that he was a very ethical guy who lives his life by a high level of integrity, but had literally just asked about masturbating next to me. So all the sudden I was feeling, confused and guilty that maybe I ruin something good, but my gut tells me it’s no good.
Or maybe it’s just my past traumas that made me lose something good? He’s been really supportive over the last couple months, while I’ve been going through some really challenging stuff with my business