Spotted on these apps:
- Hinge
- Bumble
- Tinder
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Seemed nice enough so exchanged numbers, although over text, he asked what type of ethnicities I’ve dated which was so irrelevant and in my gut I immediately felt it was because there was racism behind it but didn’t want to go there right off the bat but also.. none of your business. He also proceeded to tell me he dated two Portuguese women and that they were a disaster. Implying it was cultural..
The next day he wanted to call me at 8 am and I said no because I was working already. Got on a call with him later on that evening and it was nice for a whole two minutes before he got super aggressive, was talking over me.. literally would ask a question about me and when I went to answer he would cut me off and I said well if you let me talk, I can answer your question.
Then proceeded to talk about how he was a wine collection and drinks $800 bottles of wine and I said to each’s own, if you have the means and that’s what you enjoy/how you want to indulge then live your life. I personally would rather put money like that towards an experience. He LOST it. He’s like I’m sure you buy a ton of stupid shit with your money. So I said listen, I never said stupid.. I said not my preference of how I would like to spend my money.
He goes on ranting and raving about his clients are some of the richest people in Toronto and have I ever had an $800 bottle of wine.. said no, nor do I feel like I’m missing out. He said SEE I would have actually had respect for you if you said yes but you didn’t like it…
I said whoa whoa, I’ve given you no reason to not respect me and quote frankly, don’t care if you do. Conversation ended (not soon enough) and neither of us reached out today obviously.
Oh and he kept saying he liked good food and wine because “I don’t know, maybe it’s a European thing”.. dude.. I’m European.
He never harassed me for photos or called me names but wow, what an uncomfortable conversation. Just be respectful.
He can keep his misogynistic, egotistical, SDE, and ridiculous wine collection to himself and right there on those dating apps. Why be so angry?? Creep vibes.
RUN is right ladies!
Run!!! I chatted with him for two weeks and the day we were to meet up he sent me a threatening voice text a minute long about how he wanted to choke and punch me……all because I didn’t answer my phone at 7:30 in the morning because I was in the shower!!! I’m grateful I didn’t meet up. He was totally trying to love bomb me and needed constant validation.
Pic with no glasses.
He basically demanded my number and quickly unmatched me when I told him the same thing I tell everyone: I don’t give out my number unless and until I’ve met someone. Speaks volumes as to how respectful of boundaries he’d be. He’s since tried to match with me again.
I matched with him a couple years ago. He made me feel very uncomfortable. He called me a B and also said that he could tell that I wouldn’t do what he asked me to do. He says he is alpha male but I would say abusive.
Wants pics, full body pics and demands them instantly, like I’m not busy at the moment. Every text or call was making it clear he was expecting my body a certain way. It irked me. I have nothing to hide and pretty sure I have the figure he was hoping for. It bothered me so much I made every excuse not to take pics and send anything. It bothered him he got pissed and gave up. I was satisfied with knowing it bothered him. I get wanting to see who you’re talking to and seeing if you are attracted to them but he just made me feel nauseous with how obsessive it became. On top of the clear ego he has how he talks about himself and his house.