John, 37

Stay away from John! This guy is full of lies and completely impossible to trust. He’s very flaky and will constantly cancel on you at the last minute. I can’t believe half the stories he tells me. On our first date he was telling me about his mom living in Malta because she’s been having issues with her citizenship. He went into a lot of detail about how she got caught with drugs while she was in Paris as a teenager back in the 60’s, which is why she can’t get her citizenship. Now she’s been living in Malta taking care of her parents. His mom and dad are still married though, which I found confusing. After adding him on fb, I did some stalking and saw his dad has a gf. It came off super weird to me. I tried to find his mom’s page to see if she knew about the dad’s gf. It turns out, his mom died back in 2019. He was lying about his mom this whole time. I was extremely confused. My mom came to visit me that week, so ignored him. I mainly was just going to cut him off completely, but he was blowing my phone up. After my mom left, I did a little more research because I wanted to find out if he knew his mother was dead or if maybe he was a little psychotic. On the pictures he has with his mom, he talked about her passing, so that made me feel better but I still wanted to know why he would lie about that. I reached out to him and we made plans to hang that next day. He canceled on me because he ran out of time since he had an important dinner he had to go to, so we rescheduled for Monday. Monday comes around and he cancels on my AGAIN because his coworker didn’t come in so he had too much work he had to get done and couldn’t leave early, so we rescheduled for Wednesday. I confirmed and asked him if we’ll 100% be hanging out on Wednesday, because this flakiness is getting ridiculous and I just want answers to this mom situation. Finally we meet up on Wednesday. Halfway through the date he admitted that his mom had passed, it’s just too difficult to talk about on the first date. I get it, but the part I find weird is how detailed the story was about her still being alive and how convincing the whole story was. It makes me wonder what else he’s lied to me about. After this date he became even more flaky. He kept canceling at the last minute anytime we could hang out or he could only hang at the very last minute when it was convenient for him. It got to the point where I can’t believe anything he tells me because he never follows through or changes the story the next time he tells it. He’s told me about the last relationships he’s been in that were extremely toxic. After dating him for a couple of weeks, I can definitely see the toxicity this guy brings to relationships! He’s too much of a flake with constant game playing. He’ll bring out the worst in you. Avoid this guy at all costs.

He and I messaged for a little while. He was so weird and towards the end he was also insensitive and rude over text. Not to mention just strange texting. Like, he would send me novels (long texts) out of the blue with information that I didn’t even ask for and wasn’t part of our normal convo. One thing that sticks out to me is that he brought up love languages and went into this insane detail about how much he loves physical touch and PDA. I physically recoiled reading it all lol. Would try to “make plans” but as others said it wasn’t really making plans it was just like “hey I’m free today wanna meet up?”. Finally ghosted him because he made me feel a little uncomfortable but he kept trying to reach out for a little while before finally getting the hint