Justin, 44

I’m creating this post for anybody who comes across this man. I have no doubt that you’ll have a really great time with him. I have no doubt that you’ll just laugh your ass off. I have no doubt that he’ll show up and he’ll be cooking, and he’ll demonstrate that he can clean. I have no doubt that he will dick you down, some really great dick too, I’m sorry. But what will be missing is financial stability. What will be missing is consistency. What will be missing is accountability.

I met a man by the name of Justin Elliott Anderson, who is a licensed therapist in the state of Oregon, who is currently living in Portland, Oregon, but has land in the Ozarks, specifically Cedarcreek, Missouri. I met him via Facebook dating when I lived in Lawrence, KS.

I’m only sharing this because if you or anyone you know knows this man or gets involved with him, do not let him move in with you. Do not let him stay with you a number of nights. I met this man the first week of February of 2025. I went to his place. He lived like two hours, maybe four hours away from me. And we had a really great night, like we had sex. um and he was living out of a shed on his eight acres.

I’m a pretty open-minded chick. I’m willing to take any and all accountability and responsibility for my choices here. I’m not trying to down him for how his life is because I totally vibe with off-grid living. My concern is that I met this man in February. He had two dogs at that time, Pitbull Rottweilers. And over the course of what would become nine months, this man claimed that he was an anti-capitalist, and he didn’t pay one dollar. Well, I take that back. He paid $50 over the course of nine months to stay in my home, got a $1,900 a month mortgage in addition to utilities. He worked out of one of the bedrooms in my home using utilities and internet. He would leave lights on all around the house. If I asked him to turn them off, he would say, well, you leave lights on. So this man immediately will become defensive. You are gonna come across a man who will shut down when you attempt to have equity or accountability in the relationship.

He will block you and you will not be able to contact this man again. Mind you, this is a man who does not have custody of his 11-year-old daughter at this point in time. Daughter is 11 years old. And he went to Portland after our relationship ended and has yet to be able to make contact with his daughter. I am not making this claim wildly. He has a FetLife account.

I don’t want to yuck anybody’s yum, but he did disclose to me that he had an inappropriate dream about his daughter. In the first three months of dating the first image he presented of his daughter was them naked. I challenged him about this and he put all the naked images in the same folder as his porn.
Then find out that the man is into age play.

Over the course of the nine months, I decided to go off grid with him. And I just had this, you know, I thought it was really gonna go well. I sold my car. Fast forward, we get into a disagreement. This man leaves me on eight acres isolated. I have no car. I was left with maybe one and a half weeks worth of food. I lost 20 pounds in two weeks. He blocked me, refused to communicate, tried to blame me for all the issues, and would only communicate if I demonstrated interest in what his problems were.

Every time that you will deal with this man, he will blame a woman for what’s happening in his life. He will blame everything and everybody else for what’s happening in his life. And when things go wrong in his life, he will also utilize women. He has a history of exploiting women financially, exploiting women for their housing.

You will fall in love with this man. There’s no denying. You will fall in love with this man, and you will think that he is Prince Charming. You will think that he is the most dreamy, McDreamy guy, because he’s a hottie too. But I’m telling you now, unless you have the finances to be able to absorb his bad decisions, unless you have the heart strength to be able to set boundaries and not back down from them and kick this man out of your life when he’s not doing what he needs to do, I would highly, strongly encourage you to not date this man.

This man will watch porn or sexual content hours throughout the day and not get professional work done, and relationship responsibilities will not be tended to.

He smokes weed all day long, and he claims it’s for pain management. He smokes weed from the moment that he wakes up to the moment that he goes to sleep. This is also a man who has been fired from work because he was using the computers at work inappropriately to look at porn, and got fired.

And to top that off, part of the reason that he doesn’t have custody of his daughter, he and his THIRD wife had a shared account that had money in it. He took the money, he emptied out that account, and he purchased the land that he lives on right now. He was hoping that they would move there with him.

The ex-wife did not, and she wanted him to get a psych evaluation, which he has still yet to be able to afford to get a psych evaluation, because that’s the only way that she will allow him to see his kids. He is a therapist that does not go to therapy and attempts to “therapist” himself.

So, not really sure what to make of that other than… Just don’t do it. Fuck him and say goodbye. That’s about it. Fuck him, let him do nice things for you, and say goodbye to this man.