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Jack the hack! It’s all here. so, I was expressing some concerns and feelings to my partner about our relationship, it was a concern he had ever since the beginning of the relationship. however, I always told him itll be fine and will turn out good, but now after 2 years have passed i had the same concern and instead of talking it out with me, he told he’s hurt because he had the same concern and i reassured him back then, but now I’m thinking about it.
so, since we’re both hurt and sensitive about this topic, i started to talk about something else, but he stopped me and told me he wants to talk about it bcz hes hurt. however, I don’t think he’s acknowledging my feelings, it feels like he’s only thinking of his, so I went cold because i don’t want to have to explain it to him since I came to him with the concern, and I don’t know how to act now, I’m kinda avoiding him which I know is bad, but I don’t want to address the issue.
And it’s not always convenient Opening up a relationship after you’ve been in a long one together is cruel to your partner that doesn’t want to.
I always hear people saying that the person that doesn’t is considered to be selfish. Or that they need to control their jealousy.
Poly or open relationships, please don’t do that half way into a relationship. Communicate clearly before you enter a serious relationship, thanks.
Sorry just wanted to rant it out.
If you start out in a monogamous relationship asking your partner to switch to open is wrong. The person being selfish is the person asking.
Why should someone who prefers monogamy be forced to accept a poly relationship?
In that case the person wanting poly should let them go because they truly are the selfish one when they know their partner doesn’t want that. And many know that the partner who prefers monogamy is not going to seek out others.
It’s unfair to do that. If both mutually agree on to make a relationship open with out coercion that is fine.
I would say the same thing if a relationship started out poly and a person suddenly pushed for monogamy.
but I must admit it I don’t like it when someone tells me that they’re opening up the relationship because they “truly love you”.
No, that’s not it 🙁
Also, there should be a filter on dating apps for people into Open or Poly relationships too
Not that it really matters because when men want something they take it and it’s never reciprocated
• was generally nice, patient, fun to play games with.
• makes a fuss about sending his ID to confirm identity, which is literally for your safety
• makes a fuss about getting the door for you
• will try to convince you to sit on his lap even if you’ve expressed discomfort multiple times
• not receptive if you try to communicate with him and will just be like ‘Ok lol’
• has lots of girl “friends” which indicates the possibility of a few things to me
• If you make it explicitly clear you want flowers he will disregard that
• WORE WORKOUT CLOTHES ON THE FIRST DATE.
• Cannot control his lust and will grind his hips into you while hugging to stimulate himself if he pitches a tent from hugging.
• will ask you to split the check even though he asked you out
• will share your texts with his female coworkers and laugh at you with them, and will tell you this!
I kind of agree. Some people realize to late that they want multiple partners;however I can see how it can hurt the person who wishs to remain in a closed relationship. I got cheated on somone like that,and it hurts a lot. Clear and open communication is needed in all relationships
its like basically saying “ya you’re cool still love you but i just want new pussy. i’ll think of u when im balls deep in someone else tho ❤️” That being said I think it’s coming from nowhere and is an insult to women everywhere both gay and straight.
Here let me explain. First off Elsa doesn’t seem to have any alluded sexual preference. Anna does. She is goo goo for men so much that she falls madly in love with the first one she runs into literally. Elsa then questions the logic of marrying someone that you don’t know. A jab at a well know trope from disney. She then questions Anna not knowing what love is about. Some people are taking this as Elsa loving someone she can’t express for. I think it’s much more simple then that. Both herself and Anna have been in exile for the past few years and not having a good relationship with each other they both don’t even know what it’s like to love one another. That’s the overarching story that family is what true love is. The people you meet along the way may become family. But your family is your first true love.
There is also a moment in the film where disney casts its hat in the LGTB ring by making Oaken the owner of the shop and sauna gay. He indicated that his family is there and it’s a lot of children around a man.
Here’s where the real gripe and insult comes from. And I’m going to place it in all capitals to drive my point home. JUST BECAUSE A GIRL DOESNT SEEM TO BE SEXUAL DOESNT MEAN SHES GAY. You hear that from frat boys that strike out with a girl who’s not interested.
“She didn’t want me she must be gay.”
Or if an older woman goes unmarried.
“She must be so deep in the closet, poor thing.”
There is nothing wrong with Elsa not settling on the men she currently has available. It’s also perfectly fine if she is a sexual and simply not interested in finding a partner. If she is gay it will be a great “first” in disney. My only issue is it comes out of the blue. A moment of we can do it doesn’t mean we should do it. I mean they can make flash backs of her with some girl or woman that she closed herself off from because of her icy touch. But if that was the case then it’s not real love. “True love thaws an icy heart.” Her being in true love with anyone would have helped her overcome her icy curse. Or at least gave her less of s reason to run away.