Idriss, 52

Idriss is a African man from Togo.. A Registered Nurse he’s in his late 50’s but lies about being younger in his 40’s. I met him while working at Missouri Rehabilitation Center for mentally disabled he was a health care aide and I a Registered Nurse. He seem genuine, authentic and a devoted Muslim. We were in a relationship for around about 7-8 years. I thought I knew this man. For, the first 5-6 years it was a pretty good relationship. I had no complaints . I thought I had found the perfect guy. He was smart, ambitious and God fearing. He eventually became a registered nurse while being together and I my baccalaureate of nursing. The relationship between us didn’t start having any issues until he received is Masters degree nurse. He had some issues at first during school in which he kind of lost his mind during nursing school but nursing school is extremely stressful. If anyone knows about nursing school it not for the weak. However, he got back into the program and eventually graduated with his MSN. I was working in Illinois at job that I for years and he in Missouri. There, he had a key to my apartment and I had a key to his. We eventually got married at a mosque in north county in Missouri. I kept my same job and was looking for positions near his place and at the same time he was looking too and whom ever found a position first would relocate. He would always come back and forth to Illinois. Sometimes I would be sleep and I would wake up he would be there. When I became aware that we had a issue is on one of the nights he came over. We were about to have sex and he stated he needed to use protection with his wife. So, I was confused and taken aback. He said he went the clinic to get tested to see if had a STD. The results came back that he had the “Clap” Chlamydia. After that, things went downhill pretty quickly. I was devastated and hurt. I was like it bad enough your cheated but you don’t respect me enough to cover up. So, he told me he needed me to come to the clinic to be tested . We went to the clinic together. I was tested , given dose of antibiotics and I was told I needed to wait for the results. My results came negative. I made appointment with my gynecologist and was tested for everything. Again, everything came negative. The gynecologist asked me what i wanted to do. At that time I just wanted to protect me. I forgave him and eventually we moved into as a married couple. Once I moved their, he would say he not feeling well and I that he took a combination of antibiotics from work. So, he was stealing medication that he didn’t use from his from the VA in Missouri. Pretty much forcing me to take a combination of antibiotics and a lot times it would injectable antibiotics. I hated needles, but he would leave alone until I took the injections. I finally got tired, was like this crazy. One night a voice told me to look in computer. I found inappropriate emails to other women. Him telling them that he this accomplished nurse and all thing wonderful things about himself and wanting be with them and telling some of them he loved them. So, I emailed all the evidence to my personal email for proof he was cheating. So, when lied about everything I could pop is ass the receipts. Yes, he lied and said he didn’t know what I was talking about. I showed him what I found and asked him if there’s anything else he wanted to tell me. He said yes. I don’t just have one child I have 3 children total. The man never mentioned the other children. He taking care of a daughter in college and had even younger son. I was like, how the fuck do you not mention your other children. I met his uncle and aunt and not a word about them. When I finally seen a picture of the one he contacted chlamydia from this woman was so gross and nasty looking. But, covert narcissist don’t care they would sleep with anything. The last straw I packed my things and started looking for another place to stay. Separated, I took close to year trying to heal from the heart ache and not feeling good enough. My grandmother was passing away from cancer and like a narcissist that he is he pulled me back with lies and he sorry’s. At this time he moved to Florida to work for the VA. He was like come here to visit me . I came to Florida for a week. This man, told me didn’t like what he seen in me and that he needed might need to back to for a family emergency. He told me to leave. I started packing my stuff and I didn’t argue. I was quiet probably too quiet. That same day a cousin died. The same day his aunt was badly injured. When he was on the phone and learn about his aunt we looked at each other eye to eye. I thought God don’t play about me. That’s my father, vengeance is mine saith the Lord. This man is a lair, cheater, thief and covert narcissist. Gross and disgusting human being.