John, 50

Obsessive, paranoid, accusatory. Will damage sentimental items “because you made me mad” with no remorse, engages in excessive name calling, public humiliation, scolding, shaming. Will make every single one of his decisions your fault even if it turned out positive.. you’re still guilty of something. Will keep you awake for 3 days repeating his complaints until you are having a psychological crisis and will smile and laugh while watching you fall apart.

He’s charming. But the second he perceives betrayal he will torture and punish you until something extreme happens. He documents EVERYTHING, and keeps notes with dates and times, records conversations without your knowledge, and he will bring up his “evidence” once enough time has passed for it to be impossible to defend yourself or even recall the event in question. He’s controlling, coercive, and will blackmail and extort to get what he wants and he ALWAYS has his butt covered with his meticulous documentation which he slowly changes details and facts to until you just accept his reframing of reality because standing up for yourself is forbidden. As is saying anything that HE perceives as offensive. Which is whatever he dreams up that day. He has delusional parasitosis and will spend hours picking through crumbs, hairs and whatever random things he happens to notice lying around and then he’ll accuse you of harvesting parasites and infecting him with them.

Don’t get fooled by his seemingly dorky and down to earth nature. He’s very cruel and will hurt you as much as possible and rub it in your face when you forgive.