Kevin, 47

I met Kevin offline in December 2022 and dated “exclusively” until November 2023. Even after that, we casually met on and off because we were still both “single.” All these times, 99% of place to meet was his condo downtown Calgary and he never introduced me to his family (one son in Lethbridge) or friends. Also he never spend any significant time with me, like a whole weekend or even a day! It was always on weekend evening (later became weekday daytime) and he was never available on prime times. Even from the first few months, I couldn’t shake off my gut feeling that I was his secret mistress. He never gave me any significant gifts, took me on trips, took interest in my kids or friends, attended any of my important events… So eventually I stopped texting him back and moved on. He was going to move to Ottawa anytime soon for a dream job with the government anyway, so he told me.

How little I knew that I was in fact his secret mistress!! I met someone really close to him recently and discovered that Kevin is actually still married!! He was always away to Lethbridge “to spend time with his son” but actually he was just coming home to his wife!! His wife is very successful and wanted to help Kevin launch a new career by going back to school in Calgary, so she bought him a nice condo, where we spent most of our time together.

I feel sick in my stomach to know that I was dating a married man. And I wasn’t the only girl he was cheating with. There were several more. One of them was a real “girlfriend” type in Calgary but she found him cheating and broke up this past January. I heard he has a new “girlfriend” since last December and they are still together.

He’s living not a double life, but tripple or more, and lying to everyone!! The truth will come to surface in time for everyone to see. I’m sharing this as a warning to anyone who is dating Kevin now, or is thinking about it. He is from an unfortunate family situation and I don’t think he’s ever faced with those childhood pains. You cannot help him heal from those tramas unless he is willing to face them himself.