Antonio, 43

First red flag was when I wouldn’t have sex with him on our first date, so he told me he went to one of the women in his rotation that night, because I denied him. And how could I deny him, it was my fault because I neglected his feelings and how I ruined our relationship from doing that. He showed up to my house pleading and apologizing. Master at manipulation and narcissistic. We ended up being together on and off for a while after. At first, on his best behavior. Said he liked the same things that I did and had similar goals, wanted me to meet his son and mother, do things together, cooked for me. Treated me like his princess. Not long after, he told me that he wanted to just be friends so he could date other people and go back to women that he “keeps on a shelf.” He came back months later wanting a relationship again. Shame on me for allowing him to come back into my life three times. The third time he came back, he told me he wanted to marry me, and started looking at houses to buy together. As time went on, everything was on his terms and came at a price. If I dare challenged or upset him, he withheld affection and purposely did things to upset me or broke up with me. The second time he broke up with me was when I didn’t want to go to his house after already getting into my bed. Almost like he wasn’t able to control what I was doing, so he wanted to punish me. Things with this man are more about control than care. Major double standards. Things changed into “don’t dress that way”, “don’t talk to people of the opposite sex”, “don’t hang out at restaurants that have bars”. But if he wanted to, he would. The love bombing is strong, the lies are even stronger. The last straw was when a woman reached out to me sending screenshots of him asking “what he’s been missing” and to tell her to come over, while telling me how happy he was at his sons wrestling match earlier the same day. Will claim he is god fearing and and tries to be the best he can be, while he cheats and talks to multiple women. To whoever he prays on next, pay attention to the way he treats his mother, it’s the same way he treated me and hopefully it won’t be the same way he will treat the next person. I hope this helps.